guess we all have a small idea of \u200b\u200bwhat is empathy and many of us think we're incredibly sympathetic, but tend to fall into a common error. That mistake is to confuse empathy with intuition and believe that we have an X-ray vision, reading the thoughts of our friends, family or your partner. But really it is far from empathy, empathy is the ability we have to put ourselves in the shoes of the other person and feel what that person feels, that does not interpret what the other person thinks.
Who has not ever heard the usual comments of "I know what you think" "you need not tell me" I know what goes through your head? Well no, of course you do not know because each individual is unique and think in a unique way. Another thing is the emotions, because emotions are the expression of our feelings and we can be measured in different ways.
therefore tend to judge people, with thoughts that we believe to be universal in all people at certain times ... and that's not right.
are born with empathy and we lose as we age. From childhood our empathy is highly developed, we are able to mourn just because we see the boy next to it but not very well understand why. But it is not just with humans, other mammals have the same capacity. Look at the cat who comes when you're sick on the couch and rubbed his back a little with you, or the dog that is also about you when you are sad or away when you're angry. These animals are spread discomfort but do not bother to understand what is happening.
The problem is that most individuals in empathy is shrinking and a lesser number keeps well developed. And I'm going to put a clear example.
In my environment there are people who have a highly developed empathy, and this I know I can see those who have the ability to listen to others. As I read an interesting blog recently, God has given us two ears and one mouth, so ... Have to listen twice and talk less! .
is essential to understand that empathy is not only the ability to put myself in the other, but also listening skills we have. And frankly, overall I'm tired of seeing people who just simply to be heard and does not hint of wanting to listen.
And the problem with a sympathetic person is that when people sense your ability, abused. We tend to tell our problems to those who have a very good listener and seem to understand what we feel at any given time.
Do not you know someone who merely want to be heard and to tell you when you throw something quick change of subject, does not seem to understand anything you say ... etc? Then those people have empathy for the soil.
But the good news for is that being empathetic provides a good ear emotional social skills as empathy no longer a social radar and can use that listening and empathy to connect with others. Relationships with other people can change from being sympathetic or antipathetic sympathy for only one set.
I hope that at this point we understand a little more and better what is empathy and we learn to distinguish it from other concepts such as intuition.
As final advice I would say:
listen more to people around you and try to feel what they feel through emotions and that will give you a very good background for personal relationships.
Greetings to all
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