Fear (Chapter 3 - Threshold of tolerance)
back from my trip to China and a long vacation, I return to the blog with the same courage and interest than ever. I would like to continue the saga of fear, because since I focused on writing about it lately, I've gotten more people interested and concerned about how to manage the anxiety and the fear, often seemingly absurd and irrational. So after writing the
Chapter 1 and Chapter 2
over fear, we go with Part 3.
general rule on many occasions our domestic rival not allow us to control our mind, giving rise to begin to create thoughts we do not want at all. If the domestic rival says "TO" generally do, if it says "do not try it will fail", do not try and fail accordingly. The brain has a switch that has a very low tolerance threshold, the minimum stress or panic inhibits brain and leaves us far from the goal we were trying. There is a phrase that says "most people go to the grave without having tested their best abilities." It is because of this. We live in a society as "soft" in their way of doing things, that the slightest hint of panic or stress throw in the towel.
If we succeed in our lives we raise the threshold of tolerance of the switch. Some people are taller than others, each person is different. This is accomplished by gradually expanding our boundaries to reach our full capacity .
What happens when you get past the threshold of tolerance? ... PAIN! much pain!
is impossible to surpass the threshold or pull it down without having fought an epic battle against our own mind.
short, when you feel fear, recognize it for your body's natural reaction to conflict, accepts their presence with the world calmly, without panic, counteracts or neutralizes all negative thoughts.
own experience I can tell you that pain, fear, low self-esteem and domestic rival attack together or separately, but they attack. When they do together sometimes the situation is really difficult to bear. You attack your weak points to give up. But defeat these elements will become increasingly strong and not only makes your tolerance level goes up, but you forging a personality and a much higher self-esteem.
a couple of weeks ago I traveled to China to face to face with my domestic rival (apart from visiting the Great Wall of China;)), which I know personally know why, no, I will say that the onset of my anxiety disorder and my subsequent interest in the world of psychology, coaching, personal development etc, is determined by a traumatic experience that I lived in China in 2007. So when it comes back, the first thing I did was send an email to the psychologist who helped me for years, with some photos of my stay there and with an email thanking all he had done for me.
Rereading this email, I realized I was writing like a captain-general, as if life were perfect and wonderful, like when you have self-esteem so high that you eat the world. Do you know why?
For to face all my fears, all the unbearable suffering, exhaustion, pain, panic, my opponent and crush domestic base ... well, even with all that I won the battle and not only have I uploaded my doorstep rather high, but now I like the world.
What I want to convey is that the more you face your fears, you're more desensitized to them and it will be easier to control and use to your advantage. One of the things I wrote to my psychologist was, "Remember when I said that anxiety was over with my life, on today as I can tell you thank you from having to live with it "
anxiety and fear made me stronger than I was before I pass anything.
But
most I have a lot to be done. The ultimate goal is the mental strength such that anything that life in your way is a mere challenge, which will no longer be reluctant acceptance and nothing will seem that is above of your mental capacity.
