NO VERBAL COMMUNICATION [message without words]
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has always intrigued me to know why women say one thing when it really meant the opposite. Such has been the search for understanding, I discovered the existence of dictionaries of "female language." It seems unbelievable right? As indeed, exist. Tuesday, January 25, 2011
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Given that dictionaries could actually serve to understand some but not all, I decided to dig a little deeper into the messages you gave me, but really still not understand and many times I despaired. Analyzed again and again the message to know what to say and so I wanted to get out as unscathed from the situation, but do not know how I managed to get warm forever.
So one day I began to realize that the key to understanding what they really wanted, I had to set me what the message said that I had, but how I said that message.
Joking aside, the issue that we discuss today is not exclusive to understand women lol, but to understand the messages of any person regardless of gender.
This as I said, we will not discuss what we say but how we say it. Let's talk today of Nonverbal Communication and its importance in our lives.
I know many of my readers already have knowledge of the subject, but read to give a short introduction for those who do not really know what this means. Nonverbal communication is the sending and receiving messages without words, that is through gestures, body language or posture, eye contact, facial expression ... etc.
This is evident with a quick example. I do a test, I go to the library where a friend who is looking to put plugs in their ears. I explain how I've done the review and he even looks at me, you do not hear any of my words. At the end of the explanation that I ask him if the test knows me has been good or bad, if I'm happy or angry, and he knows it only with my eyes, to see my facial expression.
My message has been played without words, because with my facial expression and my eyes had informed much of it.
To give you an idea as only 7% of the message information is attributed to the words, the rest is true that refers to the intonation, tone, resonance of these, but above all, more than half of the message attributed to body language (gestures, postures, breathing ..)
More than half?
Yes, more than half. It seems far and it is. So now, yes, we really try to understand why this happens and know how important it is to grasp all this language. Divide
to begin our minds, conscious and unconscious mind. The conscious mind basically what we are trying to express ideas, while the ending expressing feelings and emotions is our unconscious mind. The difference esque conscious mind uses the language of words and the unconscious mind uses the body language.
Therefore, a person communicating with one another without body language, looks like a person without feelings, which is certainly not a very welcome in our society (no one likes to have a person or as partner or as a friend or as head ...). But a person who uses a lot of body language is conceived as a much stronger person. While it does not mean that the person has these feelings, at least appears to them, and that dear readers, you can achieve goals in the world in front of others (social, family goals, objectives on the street, the company targets etc ....).
The importance of knowing how to understand non-verbal language is vital in day to day and this is because the average person can lie in his words, but not with their emotions. Remember what we just learned, the emotions my body language shows through my unconscious mind, so although I want to give a message with my words maybe my body is saying the opposite.
There is a television series that has become very popular in the U.S. and other countries "Lie to me "that arrived in Spain as" Lie ", which is based primarily on this. A group of experts detect the lies of the people through the nonverbal language of individuals. A series that I recommend to 100% of all the first chapters, which place great emphasis on what facial or body movements are expressing what lie.
With non-verbal communication we know if we lie, we know if the person you talk is sad despite all try to pretend otherwise with his words, learn to understand the messages better and thus to receive more complete information.
from a job interview, until a talk with a old friend, everything is surrounded by non-verbal language and the more you have mastered this aspect, both the managing it and interpret it when we have a better development of our person, we will gain in self that after all is what we tried learn in this blog, how to get this development as individuals.
To complete this article I have been fundamental to give some examples that we see in our everyday communication nonverbally.
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"When we shake hands and give the other person weak and powerless, the other guy is telling us insecure, however if we notice a strong pressure and gaze at the eyes, the other individual is not showing self-confidence.
- When we shake hands and placed his other hand over ours, this shows an example of authority by another individual. Also if to shake hands stretched a bit about us and we put your other hand on the shoulder, we are stating "I'm in charge here."
When we lie:
- A person who lies is constantly cover her mouth. Therefore, if we maintain a conversation in which potentially can lie and we see that the transmitter (the one giving the message) will consistently cover the mouth, is a clear indicator that we are lying.
- Closed arms or legs as a sign of protection.
He put his hands in his pockets, are indicating a clear uncertainty in the message they are transmitting.
Hands:
- The palms of the hands is essential to observe, because they are an indicator of the message. If during the conversation the person you talk is showing a lot of the palms of your hands, you are telling us honesty, courtesy, loyalty. Instead that person (as we have seen when they are put in pockets), hides his hands and is possibly hidden because it is not safe and may lie. If their hands intertwined on the back denoting superiority, if you put on your hips and if supports aggression denotes fingers one hand and the other in an arc, shows much self-confidence and Know-how of the topic. In a conversation
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- his arms are crossed, do not care what they're telling, are closed to the media.
- If you cross your arms than you have the thumbs up, the guy is saying "I feel more important than you"
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- If a woman weaves her legs pointing your knee or the tip of your foot to a boy may feel interest in him. If you pay attention when someone is interested sits in front of us. However if you look properly, there are times that if you talk to someone wants to go, your legs start to spin even when under the table as it is "running away" from that situation.
- The classic when a woman touches her hair, is flirting.
Well dear friends, I think that's enough for this time. If you like in a while write a sequel, because I think a really interesting topic.
So I encourage you that as of today for a few days, watch out for what the people around you. Hear what they say, but mostly looks at how they say it. Greetings
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